I’m trying to find a drugs test to test the father of my children.
Firstly, if you have concerns that your children’s father is under the influence when he picks up or drops off the children and that there are any risks or safety concerns then I would advise that you discuss your concerns with the Department of Health and Social Care’s Initial Response Team (Isle of Man based). You can contact them on 686179.
Also, have you discussed your concerns with the children’s father? Is he receiving help from services? It could be he is experiencing a relapse and may need to access services. Depending on your relationship it may help to discuss this openly with him.
If you really suspect he is using M-cat and don’t want your children to be with him than you need to be having this discussion with him and/or a relevant agency. Who knows, he may welcome the opportunity to prove he’s not using.
I personally would not advise you to test someone yourself. Usually, if there are concerns about such matters then testing can be done but usually as part of a care order and arranged by Social Care staff.
I would not encourage you to take this on yourself and instead would recommend contacting services who can assess the situation and provide the necessary structures to manage any risk.
Although it may feel scary it is perfectly natural to be concerned as a mother and it is great that you are seeking help. Professional organisation will help you make the right decisions and protect you and your children.